Seems to be a cycle...What's happening now?

Not really sure why it is, but it seems like I go through periods where I update this thing, and then don't touch it for sometimes years.... I am wondering if it might be better for me if I use this more so here is my catch up entry...

Latest things that have happened in my life (in no particular order):

• I got married!!! On June 22nd, 2013, I married the love of my life. We've been through a lot together, seen the ugly side (that all humans have) and we still love each other! 
• I have been studying and teaching Martial arts more actively and really enjoying it. 
• I have a job working for a large company that has been overall, a positive experience. 
• I have completed 1/6th of my graduate program. 
• I have been playing (weekly) Dungeons and Dragons with a group of guy friends for a couple years now. 

So that is a very broad overview that clearly doesn't have all of the fine details that encompass my life since my last post. Perhaps with more regular posts I can find a more solidified direction I would like to take with this blog. 

What would people want to read about? Martial Arts? Technology? Food? Music? Higher Education? Would someone want to read this if it isn't focused on one thing? I guess I am going to need to get out and read some more blogs and see what sort of content generates interest. For now lets start with my immediate goals. 

I have been working on the 'smaller things' lately. I have always been a dreamer and a 'big picture' kind of thinker. Whereas my wife is a detail-oriented, organizational power-house of awesomeness. She does an amazing job managing our family finances as well as being ever-aware of our schedule of events for the next month or so. I have been working on being better at daily tedious tasks like dishes, taking care of our two cats, and other household chores. I don't mind doing any of these tasks necessarily, but I have found myself really enjoying just coming home from work, sitting in our recliner, and reading up on Facebook, Reddit, and the news on my phone. What I have been trying to do is: as soon as I get home, do something around the house before I plop down and decompress. My job has its stresses (like many do) but for me this decompression time is invaluable. 

I want to be the best husband I can be. I get home before my wife does every day by about 2+ hours. If I can somehow make our home a place she is looking forward to coming to, then I have reached my goal. I haven't habituated any of these behaviors yet, and a random factoid in my brain tells me you have to do something 28 times for it to become habit. Anyone know about this or have any insight? If I can successfully ingrain some of these new habits and get them to the point where I don't have to think about them, perhaps that will allow my wife to come home, put her feet up, and be able to relax as well. 

That is my immediate goal. To develop better home-life habits, so that I don't have to think about them and I just do them. (This isn't something I had growing up). 

So whats my big picture?

I know that I want/need to live a fulfilling life. This is different for everyone. For a lot of people this means building out a career, possibly securing an early retirement and taking it easy. I want to live like I mean it. I don't believe in an afterlife per se, but I do believe that our afterlife is what legacy we leave behind. How will people remember me? How do you balance that sort of idea while remaining here...now...where I am physically and mentally this moment. Do I stay at this multi-billion-dollar company for 30 years putting away retirement money? Do I join the small business struggle and open a recording studio and/or a martial arts studio and gamble on my retirement? Which life will be more fulfilling? These are answers that can only be answered after the fact, which makes things a bit frustrating, confusing, and actually quite exciting. I want to have a family one day so where does that put me? My wife's parents have been self-employed for over 30 years and they have good years and bad years, but not much in the way of a retirement plan. I suppose if you love and support your children enough, they sort of become your retirement plan and may reciprocate that support in the twilight of your life. 

Right now....I am going to keep doing what I am doing. Work from 7-4, M-F, rinse and repeat. Outside of work has to be my focus for sanity. Presently my work doesn't challenge me. Difficult? Yes. Tedious? Sometimes. Challenge my intellect? No. So outside of work I need to find other methods to challenge my intellect. There are 15 other hours in the day I am not working, and presumably at least 8 of those should be sleeping. So now I am down to 7 extra hours.

So many paths to take. I could finish the novel I have planned, I could work out, clean, play video games, make something with my hands, play music?

What's your thoughts? 

What are you doing with the extra hours of your days?

If you are reading this, should I write more and keep up with this?

Cheers.